Forgive me for I have sinned. If you were to look in my closet you’d see six new pairs of pants, four super cute tops, an owl scarf, a cute owl necklace and a beautiful new turquoise purse. I love my new purchases. I feel beautiful in my new outfits, which is a feeling that I haven’t had lately. I won’t have to shop again for a while or be able to afford it as a matter of fact.
As much as I love my new purchases though I feel a huge pit of guilt in my stomach. I can’t belive I spent so much money on myself. I’m very careful with our families money because I know how much it takes to raise children. Of course I still considered my budget during my huge shopping spree. My children definetly aren’t hurting or lacking in any way but I just feel that I should mainly purchase items for them.
In my last long term relationship whenever I would buy something for myself, my ex would call me selfish. I could have bought a new bra or a tube of mascara and all of a sudden I only thought of me, myself and I. Trying to convince yourself that it is ok to buy the things that you need and even want sometimes is a chore. After being verbally abused to the point of feeling like a selfish beast of a mother I still find myself justifying every little thing I buy.
My question is, should mothers (single or married) feel bad for treating themselves every once in a while?